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Developing Positive Relationships with Parents

by Shelley Gray on May 18, 2012

Good relationships with your students are essential, but good relationships with parents are just as important for ensuring  academic success. But how do you develop strong relationships with parents?

 1. Let down your defenses:  When a parent approaches you with a concern, whether it be about her child or about your teaching, it is normal to get defensive. After all, it feels like you are being criticized. However, once you get defensive, it will usually only escalate the situation more and will not satisfy either party. Instead of trying to defend your teaching, first validate what the parent is concerned about by saying something such as, “I understand your concern…” Then explain your reasoning in a non-defensive way. This will help to build respect and trust.

2. Encourage involvement: Parents should feel like they can be involved with all aspects of their child’s education. Encourage parents to volunteer in the classroom if they are willing. Other ways that parents can volunteer without being in the classroom include preparing materials or helping on field trips.

 3. Start and finish positive: In every interaction that you have with a parent, start and finish on a positive note by telling them something good that their child has done. Remember that parents of children with behavior problems have probably heard the same old negative comments a million times, so surprise them by giving them positive feedback before and after you discuss improvements that need to be made.

 4. Communicate: Ensure that your lines of communication are open with parents. Whether you choose to communicate by phone, email or in person, touch base with every parent on a regular basis. Take the time to email or call  just to tell them something positive about their child, rather than saving the phone calls for negative events.

5. Don’t assume: Don’t make the mistake of assuming that parents know what their child is learning in school, or how to help them at home. Education is much different today than it was thirty years ago, and parents may be very unaware of new techniques and teaching strategies. Take the time to show parents how their children are being taught. For example, at parent-teacher conferences, show parents how to help their child ask questions during reading, or add 2-digit numbers without using traditional carrying.

Remember that in every interaction with a parent, you have the power to make it a positive experience. It’s in your hands!

Teaching in the Early Years

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Be the Bean

by Kendal Privette on May 15, 2012

Coffee Beans 

The North Carolina Teacher of the Year, Tyronna Hooker,  spoke at one of our faculty meetings recently – a shot in the arm as we enter this season of testing. She shared an inspirational story with us, and, although I have to admit that I don’t always pay attention to the heartwarmers, I was…inspired. In the story a woman who is facing adversity boils a carrot in one pot, an egg in another and a coffee bean in another. The carrot gets mushy and the egg hard, but the coffee bean? Changes the water. School isn’t always easy, but we all, teachers and students alike, have a choice in how we respond to challenges.

I thought about the ways in which my students have been the bean this year. Making bracelets to raise money to provide clean water in Africa, welcoming students with special needs to their classroom, writing award-winning speeches, assisting teachers in a grant-writing project to provide a defibrillator for our school, pitching in to help our custodian while another has been on medical leave for four months, and the list goes on.

I want to be the bean everyday for my students – challenging their minds, dispelling myths, breaking up stereotypes and always, always pushing for more.

I want to be the bean everyday for my colleagues – smiling, working as a team player, and helping in any way I can.

I want to be the bean in my community – listening, advocating for students  and speaking positive words about my school.

How about you? In what ways have your students been agents for change this year? In what ways do you want to be the bean?

Kendal teaches 7th grade social studies and blogs at a spacious place

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Today’s guest post comes from an English teacher in China, Amy Young. Amy shares about how an unlikely pairing of subjects and ideals became a memorable classroom experience. You can read more about Amy’s teaching and life experience living in Beijing at her blog, Messy Middle.  You can, and should!, follow Amy on twitter at: @Amyinbj.  {Interested in guest posting?  See our guidelines here.}

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Like the average reader of this blog, I believe in integrated teaching and learning. Can you find biology in an English class? Absolutely you can! Turns out even after all these years of teaching I’m not as integrated in my thinking or lessons as I thought.

A couple of weeks ago I walked into my 3rd period Senior One (10th grade) oral English class in Beijing, China, and was greeted with cries “teach us math!” Not going to happen (even though I’d taught math in the US); but then I had one of those inspiring moments we all long to have, where things just come together. We were working on a unit about money. On a whim I wrote “happiness” and “money” on the board and asked them to make a mathematical equation showing the relationship between them. I made a pathetic sample I’m not going to show you because, well, I look like a simpleton. As I walked around the room there was a buzz in the air. “Miss Amy, can we use functions?” Can you?! I randomly chose four students to write their equations on the board, but others wanted to as well. They blew me away. Here are some the finished products:

I wish I could remember the explanation! Or these two:

Or how about this one:

I love that it culminates in a venn diagram! Even I can grasp that one.

There were graphs, exponents, sets, functions, greater than, less than, infinity, and diagrams as they depicted deep and significant things in relating money and happiness. This is what integrated teaching looks and feels like. In that class, I learned more than they did.. .

1. My definition of “Chinese Creativity” is far too narrow. Over the years I’ve been asking them to be creative in ways I know how to be creative without linking it more often into some of their strengths.

2. I’ve been asking the wrong question. Instead of asking what my students don’t know and filling in gaps, I also need to ask what they already know and incorporate it more.

3. My teaching categories are too rigid. So much for priding myself on being integrated! I would not have put money, math, happiness, and oral English in same lesson because they didn’t seem to go together.

But, apparently, to a classroom full of Chinese students, they most certainly did.

- Amy Young, orignally posted in part at Messy Middle

 Where might your definition of student creativity be too narrow, thus hindering lesson integration? Could you try a similiar activity in one of your classrooms this week?

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The Cure for Spring Fever

by angela_watson on May 3, 2012

When I was a new teacher, I was stunned to discover that the last few weeks of school presented the biggest classroom management challenge of the year. It didn’t make sense to me–I’d already taught my procedures and routines. The kids knew exactly what to expect from me. We had a great rapport and classroom community.

So why did I have to repeat everything I said eighteen times before they listened? How come I had to crack the whip on behavioral infractions like it was suddenly the first day of school all over again?

I remember saying to my students, “Walk in the hallway. Raise your hand if you want to share something. You know this stuff, guys. The rules are the same as they’ve been since August.

It wasn’t until after a few miserable springs that I finally realized the truth: the rules weren’t the same as they’d always been.

By early May, I was just as tired as the kids. I wanted to give them (and myself) a break. So I’d decide not to give our regular math morning work assignment and let the class do a word search page instead. The kids got all excited and forgot to follow the routines for staying on-task and completing their work independently. I’d quickly get irritated and blame the problem on ‘spring fever’.

After that, I’d figure there was no way the kids would be attentive during the regular vocabulary lesson, so I’d give a partner reading assignment instead. The kids became even more wound up and start chattering loudly. I assumed there wasn’t much I could do about it, and hey, the class had worked so hard all year, so I let them get noisier than I normally would. The students, of course, realized I was busy doing paperwork and wasn’t addressing the noise level, so they stopped pretending to read altogether. Instead, they began calling out to each other, walking around the room, and acting silly.

At that point, I’d get totally fed up, yell at the kids, and plan to take them outside for an early recess so I could get some fresh air. The kids realized that their poor behavior frustrated me, but it also resulted in extra time outside, so there was no incentive to follow directions when they re-entered the classroom.

Eventually I realized I had slacked off on academics way too early, and had started to project an energy that signaled to the kids: The teacher is DONE. She doesn’t care anymore and now you don’t have to, either.

It was through trial and error that I learned to avoid this downward spiral by following a simple principle: Keep the routines and procedures the same as much as possible until a week before school ends. Give the same type of tasks in the same order and use a predictable routine in your lessons. Stick to your regular schedule, and when it’s interrupted by assemblies and other activities beyond your control, keep the rest of the day as tightly structured as possible.

Many teachers (myself included) like to change instruction and assignments after standardized testing is over for the year and do more creative and hands-on activities. But that doesn’t have to mean you’ll have an erratic schedule. You can determine your new routines, teach those expectations to students, and hold kids to them.

Chance are, many of your co-workers won’t do this and you’ll be tempted to become lackadaisical. Just remember that kids thrive under predictability. You knew this fact and planned accordingly at the beginning of the year, so don’t be fooled into thinking that your kids will suddenly be angels without any structure for the entire months of May and June.

Above all, make sure you take time to enjoy your students during your last few weeks together. Schedule some fun quality time with your class. Be patient with their excess energy and their reluctance to buckle down and focus on school work. Support them the best you can through predictable routines and clear expectations, but do so with kindness.

And save a little bit of that patience and consideration for yourself. You’ve accomplished a lot throughout the year, and you’re in that final stretch. The end is in sight, my friends–make the most of every moment you have left.

Angela WatsonAngela Watson was a classroom teacher for 11 years and currently works as an instructional coach and educational consultant based in New York City.  She conducts webinars and writes books centered on her passion for helping teachers build strong classroom management and a positive mindset so they can truly enjoy their work. Her website features hundreds of free articles, lesson ideas, classroom photos, printable forms/posters, and more. You can subscribe to the blog or newsletter, or connect on Facebook/Twitter.

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When the Going Gets Tough

April 25, 2012
Rope

When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Keep Going . . .  At Least Until Summer Break. Tough? Yeah, that’s this time of year. Looking for inspiration? Read on. If you hold on to the end of the post, you’ll even find some practical ways to make it through to summer. No matter what age [...]

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How to Stop Interruptions from Elementary Students

April 24, 2012

Interruptions from young children can become a major distraction in the classroom. Check out the following two ideas from teachers of elementary students, which I saw this week on Teaching Channel. Both are brilliantly simple ways to help young students not interrupt the teacher when he/she is working with a small group on a certain [...]

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Reaching and Teaching the Impoverished Child

April 17, 2012

How many of the students with whom you regularly interact are disorganized, frequently lose papers, bring many reasons why something is missing, don’t do homework, are physically aggressive, like to entertain, only see part of what is on the page, only do part of the assignment, cannot monitor their own behavior, laugh when they are [...]

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How-To Fall For the Kid Who Drives You Crazy

April 12, 2012

I have a thing for the naughty kids, the ones who curse and spit and do the exact opposite of what successful students are required to do. I like the kids who frequent the office, refuse help, and show some fight. Those kids make me smile. However, those kids drive most crazy. Tough kids keep [...]

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The Problem with Education {Better Plans or Better People?}

March 27, 2012
The Problem with Education {Better Plans or Better People?}

What are the problems with our current education system?  Is it too much testing, or not enough?  Is it a lack of funding or an excess of paperwork or too many required workshops on those professional development workdays? Is it the over-zealous, but out-of-touch, government or the central office? Do we need better plans and [...]

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How to Enjoy Teaching During Testing Season

March 22, 2012

Testing season has opened in North Carolina Public Schools. Over the next eight weeks we will train for a field test, administer the field test, review the field test, train for the state end-of-grade tests, administer the state end-of-grade tests, remediate for re-tests and administer the re-tests.  Sigh. Deep, heavy, ragged sigh. I want to teach. I [...]

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